How to dress for fall in California

It’s been months since I posted a purely fashion post. For the past 8 months or so I’ve lived by the mantra: “the professional woman should dress fabulously without her clothing defining her as a person.” That’s meant that I wasn’t exactly inspired to talk trends. But as I was packing boxes for my move, I asked myself “what exactly am I supposed to wear for fall in California?! What is California Fall Style?” Fall in the PNW has meant throwing on scarves and hats and sweaters and layers. In honor of my move back to the sunshine state, today I’m 4 sharing tips for how to dress for fall in California. And don’t worry, you’ll be stylish, dressed for the season, and most importantly – not overheated.

Also, before we hop right it, I want to give a little shout out to Oliver Bilou for gifting me one of their “Taylor” bags to feature in this post.

4 Tips for Achieving California Fall Style

1. Check out this year’s fall colors. 

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Nothing screams out of season like white and pastels. Even though in theory we’ve decided you can wear white all year ‘round, if you’re trying to act like you live in a place that actually has seasons, you’ll want to leave those white jeans in the closet for a while.

fall_color_trends_panatoneYou can’t go wrong with burnt oranges, olive greens, and camel browns which are classic fall colors. This article sums up this years added trendy colors (which you can also see on the left). I decided to go with Grenadine (red) for today’s look. These colors are also fun options if you want to have a more progressive spin on the classics. Just because you’re in fall doesn’t mean you have to be stuck wearing brown and orange all season!

2. Aim towards light weight sweaters or dresses with boots. 

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Here’s the thing – you want to give the illusion of warmth without the actual heat of being warm. I have quite a few sweaters which I like to call “fake” sweaters – they look like sweaters but I’d never actually wear them in Seattle in the fall without a few layers. The dress + boots combo goes along a similar concept. The dress by itself might not say fall, but the boots definitely will.

For my look I paired a button down skirt with some Chelsea boots and longer socks.

3. Have optional layers 

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Fall in San Diego is pretty interesting. It can be 50 degrees at 8 AM, 80 degrees at 12 PM, and 60 degrees at 5 PM. It can be frustrating to say the least! My favorite thing to do is have a light weight coat like the one I’m wearing to throw over your shoulders or leave in the car in the event you do get cold in the evening or while the AC is cranked at the office.

Some other layering options? A blanket scarf,  a sweater with a tee under that you can remove, and a hat you can use to keep your ears warm.

4. Always keep a hint of California

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The reality is that when you dress for fall in California, it’s too hot for a full fall wardrobe. All to say that there’s no shame and repping the Sunshine state in your look. I fell in love with the “Taylor” because for some reason it reminded me of California. It had something to do with the rose gold details and light beige color. I love that it can work for all seasons. But it’s low key totally bringing a bit of the sunshine state into the look.

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| Oliver Bilou Bag c/o | SHEIN Zipper Jacket c/o | Black button down skirt (thrifted, similar) | Cole Haan Boots (old, similar)

Looking for more California fall style inspiration? You can visit my Fall Mood Pinterest Board here. You can also check out this blog post from an Los Angeles trip last year! 

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I can’t do it all and I’m NOT sorry

Somewhere along the lines someone told us that we could “do it all and that we could have it all.” Maybe we can thank Wonder Woman, or Leave it to Beaver, or those 1950s cookbooks with the wife/mom pulling a turkey AND pie AND pot roast out of the oven at the same time. I grew up thinking that I was going to be that person. (No, not the one pulling all those crazy dishes out of the oven, unless it’s Thanksgiving of course). I mean the one that was going to do it and have it all. About a year ago – mid-October 2016 to be exact – I came to a realization. I can’t do it all. And I’m NOT sorry. 

WHAT HAPPENED TO ME

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No one was happy. Everyone (including me) was complaining. I felt like I wasn’t being a good friend, daughter, girlfriend, worker, grandchild, or blogger. I couldn’t understand why even though I was putting the effort in, I wasn’t seeing the results. Unless of course you count gray hairs to be results. It felt like I was one of those hair ties that you use 1,000 times and it gets so stretched out that it snaps. Guess what? I figuratively snapped. It was all thanks to Sheryl Sandberg and her book Lean In.

BURSTING THE MYTH: LEAN IN & YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL.

Sheryl said, :“Each of us makes choices constantly between work and family, exercising and relaxing, making time for others and taking time for ourselves. Being a parent means making adjustments, compromises, and sacrifices every day. For most people, sacrifices and hardships are not a choice, but a necessity.” (p.122)

Even though I’m not a parent, I knew what she was talking about. I knew that with only 24 hours in a day I could only do and be so much. What really hit it home was this next quote –

“Success is making the best choices we can . . . and accepting them.” (p.139)

Those of us that want to have it and do it all have something major in common – we have extremely high expectations of what success looks like. To me success was trying to make everyone happy all the time, even though it meant making me UNhappy all the time. Like I was saying earlier, I snapped. Tiffany Dufu, one of my favorite speakers and the Chief Leadership Officer of Levo, put it best – I dropped the ball. (FYI Her book, Drop the Ball is a must read. )

BECOME OKAY WITH DROPPING THE BALL

Everything about dropping the ball felt wrong at first. I consider myself pretty self-less, so making things about “me” went against the grain. Below are a few things that helped me finally feel comfortable with not doing it all. At the end of the day you can’t do it all, so you might as well get on board with figuring it all out.

Find out what really matters.

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Have you ever watched the show “Chopped” ? It’s on the Food Channel and basically chefs go through 3 rounds of cooking (appetizer, entree, dessert) and every round someone gets chopped until they arrive at one winner. Life has a lot of moving parts, and you need to treat those parts like the judges on Chopped would.

Ask yourself the following questions –

  • Which of your relationships are high quality, and which are low quality?
  • What do you truly enjoy doing with your free time?
  • In your life right now – what is making you happy and what is making you unhappy?

I put this tip first because it was the no 1 tip that has led to my happiness in the last year. Low quality friendships that suck up my time? Chopped. Going to events because other people want me to go, and not because I want to go? Chopped. You get my drift. It might sound cruel, but life is too short to be doing things or spending time with people that pull you back instead of pushing you forwards.

Ask for help.

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When I started my first job out of college, I was afraid to ask questions. I felt that by asking questions or asking for help, I was showing that I was weak or unqualified.

A situation finally came along where I had absolutely no clue what I was doing.  I asked one of my colleagues for help because I had spent days trying to solve the problem. What I had spent days on took him 10 minutes. It was a tough pill to swallow. Not to get all cliché but there’s no “I” in “TEAM.” Asking for help doesn’t show that you’re weak, it shows that you’re strong enough to know what you can (and can’t) accomplish on your own. 

Be honest with yourself and others.

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This is the younger sibling of the “Ask for Help” tip. I truly believe that 99.9% of the time honesty is the best policy. And that honesty comes in the form of being introspective and asking yourself “what is my bandwidth?” I have high expectations for myself. I think I tend to think there’s more hours in the day than there actually are.

But here’s the problem. Optimism is GOOD. Unrealistic Optimism is BAD. When you become unrealistically optimistic, that when you can lead yourself and others down what I call the hole of disappointment. For example, let’s say your boss asks you to complete a project within a certain time span. You know that you have 1,000 other things on your plate and that even though it’s possible that you can complete the project on time, it’s improbable. I believe that the better option is to be honest, explain the situation and propose a new timeline. By being honest you’re setting realistic expectations and decreasing the likelihood of disappointing others.

Stick to what you believe in.

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This tip comes from Tiffany Dufu, and when she first shared it I didn’t really resonate with me until she explained it. When you start to drop the ball people will question you and they’ll judge you. Don’t allow them to tear you down. Remember that you carefully analyzed your situation and made the tough decisions. Believe in yourself and stick to what you believe in. 

A perfect example for me is a reoccurring situation I’ve been in. When I’m not working, I’m blogging or doing all the other adult things I have to do. That means I don’t have much free unscheduled time. I don’t enjoy going out to bars and drinking. I don’t enjoy not sleeping enough and waking up grumpy. I prefer going to sleep at 10 PM (even if it’s Friday) after making a nice dinner and watching Netflix. Boring? Maybe to you. But to me that means I can wake up early the next morning, head to the farmer’s market, sit at a coffee shop, and write a blog post. All before 10 AM. I’ve had to stick to my beliefs on this topic despite friends constantly pushing me to go out.

Be comfortable with saying “No.”

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We all have limits. Being “Yes (Wo)man” doesn’t necessarily show we’re strong. I’ve reiterated it over and over on the blog. Like in blogging (I mentioned it in this post) , what you say no to says more about you than what you say yes to.

Whether it’s a project at work, or an invite from a friend – you can’t say yes every. single. time. Prioritize what’s important and say “thanks, but no thanks” to the rest.

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Seattle Halloween Events 2017

Hi lovelies! We are 3 weeks away from Halloween and I have no idea what I’m doing yet. But if you’re a planner like me, times a’ticking! Today I’m featuring a guest post by my friends at Party Bus Seattle to share 6 boozy events to help you get in the spirit for the scariest day of the year. 

There’s one thing for certain, Halloween is a magical time of year! It never gets old, and there is something about the atmosphere that brings back memories of the past. You don’t have to stop celebrating as an adult, and Seattle is a fantastic place to be when the holiday hits. This year is an especially spooky year as far as events are concerned! Here are some activities to consider checking out when you’re planning a Halloween adventure with friends, as well as information on how to make your celebration as efficient as possible.

October 21: Halloween Pub Crawl

The seventh annual Halloween Pub Crawl usually has a crowd of around 500 people dressed up in their costumes! It starts in Downtown Seattle and ends in Pioneer Square. There’s no cover charge at the stops, but registration is $15 until the 20th, and then it increases to $25.

October 21: Black Cat Bash

The Black Cat Bash is a party with a cause! Located at Studio Seven, the proceeds from this benefit go directly to the Seattle Humane. Baby Van Beezly will be spinning throwbacks all night long. Dante’s Inferno Dogs will also be there serving up vegan options.

October 26: Zombie Crawl

This crawl focuses on visiting a plethora of bars in the Capitol Hill neighborhood in full on zombie gear. It starts with a kick off party at Redhook, then a crawl at the specified locations, and ends with zombie trivia at Grim’s where you can win prizes. The event is free!

October 27: FreakyNight

Hosted at the Wamu Theater, this circus themed EDM festival promises a night of dancing and fun. There will be entertainment in the form of carnival rides and games, aerial arts, flame eaters, contortionists, jugglers, and stilt walkers. The lineup boasts big artists such as Justice, Kaskade, Adventure Club, and Borgore.

October 28: Bollywood Halloween

Club Contour and the Columbia City Theater are hosting dance parties in the theme of Bollywood the weekend before Halloween. Bollywood Thriller at the Theater is especially noteworthy, as it holds a lesson of the dance around 10pm and then a flash mob recital a couple hours afterward.

October 28: Haunt: The Ultimate Halloween Bash

This bash is held at the Museum of Popular Culture in Downtown Seattle, and it’s filled to the max with entertainment when you consider the large turnout and live music.  Two thousand people gather here each year for the massive costume contest and spectacular atmosphere.

Using professional transportation beyond your usual Uber or Lyft ride is a great way to add convenience to your night out. If you plan on having drinks, it’s the best plan to ensure safety from start to finish. When you think about all of the extra features that come with this type of transportation as compared to smaller sedan transportation, you’ll see that it’s definitely worth the investment! It doesn’t have to break the bank when it’s split up between passengers, too. For more information, head over to Limo and Bus in Seattle. It’s time to get spooky!

 

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What are you doing for Halloween?

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Disclosure:  Limo Bus Seattle graciously sponsored this post, but as always I guarantee that on P&P 100% honesty is always included! 

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Tips for Making Friends in the Blogging Community

Hi lovelies! Recently I got together with three of my favorites in the Seattle blogging community – Mare (marellenmadayag.com) , Emma (emmasedition.com), and Karya (karyaschanilec.com) for a fall themed shoot.  We visited the Carpinito Pumpkin Patch in Kent, WA for some pumpkin picking and fun photos! This shoot was particularly special to me for a few reasons. 1) I love fall and visiting pumpkin farms. 2) I was surrounded by my favorite Seattle friends. And 3) this will be one of my last (and greatest) Seattle memories.

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This post is also special to me because this time last year I had a major meltdown. I called my boyfriend on the phone and crying that I felt completely alone.  I was three months into being in Seattle and hadn’t made any friends that I didn’t know from college or work.  The thing is – I know now I wasn’t alone in this feeling. I see it on Instagram all the time – new bloggers feel left out of the community or don’t know how to break into the industry. Or let’s make it even simpler: we all know the feeling of being new/alone and not knowing what exactly to do about it. Luckily, a year later, things are completely different. I’m moving back to California with some amazing friends that I know I’ll be keeping in contact with.

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It was also around this time last year that I was invited to my first blogger event. That was step one in making blogger friends. A month after that Mare reached out to me via Instagram for coffee. And a few months after that, Karya reached out to see if I wanted to collaborate on a blog post. Emma and I finally briefly met at an event earlier this year and I followed up to get coffee. Now? They’re some of my closest friends in the PNW. I feel incredibly blessed to know such amazing women.

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While getting ready for this shoot, we started discussing the topic of the blogging community and making blogger friends. While we all feel that we’ve made some lasting friends, we agreed that a lot of frustration has been all over Instagram about the topic of friends. So today each of us will be answering the question:

“What is one tip you would share with a blogger that is looking to make friends in the blogging community?”

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Marellen Madayag, Travel & Style Blogger, marellenmadayag.com

Step out of your comfort zone.

Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and directly reach out to a fellow blogger whom you’re interested in meeting over coffee. They will be just as flattered to receive a message from you as you are to meet them. Go on, put yourself out there!

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Giulia Dugo, Career & Style Blogger, palmtreesandpellegrino.com

It’s quality over quantity.

Oh hey friends, me again. It’s my turn to share my tip! I think it’s so easy to get caught up in the numbers game online AND in real life. When we’re excluded from a brunch or not invited to an event it is only normal to feel left out. But for me it’s about two reminders. 1) It’s about the quality of the relationships you have, not the quantity. 2) Not everyone in the blogging community will be your BFF, and that’s okay. Wherever you are you’re part of a community and that community has people with different interests and personalities. You’ll find your BFFs and whether that’s 1 person or 10 it’s okay!

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Emma Cortes, Lifestyle Blogger, emmasedition.com

Attend events.

A great way to network and meet more friends is to go to events. Instead of scrolling through my phone, I usually try to make a friend with whoever is seated next to me. I’d encourage you to turn to your neighbor and simply ask “Hi I’m (name), what’s your name?” And then your second question, “what brought you to the event today?”. These two simple questions can lead to a whole conversation! If you vibe with the person you’re talking to, don’t be afraid to ask to grab coffee to talk about fashion or blogging.

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Karya Schanilec, Seattle Photographer & Blogger, karyaschanilec.com

Give a compliment. 

Don’t be afraid to DM someone to compliment their outfit or that you also love that show they’re watching – you never know what connections you’ll make that way!

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Thrifting Tips: 6 Tips for Creating your Halloween Costume on a Budget

Hi G-fam! Today I’ve partnered with Value Village to share with you some thrifting tips for getting your Halloween costume on a budget. Hint: I spent under $25 for a costume and made it out of clothes I can reuse later in the year.

We are exactly 27 days away from Halloween. And if you’re like me, you don’t want to leave finding a costume until the last minute.  When it comes to Halloween, I remember growing up I used to spend $50 or more dollars on a costume that I would wear once! Looking back that was c-r-a-z-y. I wizened up last year when I visited Value Village to thrift my Agnes from Despicable Me costume. That’s why it was perfect when they reached out to work with me this Halloween! Without further ado, let’s hop into the tips.

Thrifting Tips for Creating your Halloween Costume

1. Get pin-spired

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I spent the week before my trip to Value Village on Pinterest coming up with a few ideas. (You can visit my board here). You never know what you may or may not find! I made sure to save quite a few photos to my phone to look at while I was shopping. I narrowed down my costume to two concepts – Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl and Velma from Scooby Doo. You can probably tell who won!

2. Shop your Closet

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Before you head out, make sure to take inventory of what you have in your closet. Put aside items that “work” and those that “could work but aren’t perfect.” I had these loafers in my closet that seemed very Blair but weren’t exactly like the photo. I put them in the “could work” pile. The over the knee tights I also had at home. (However, I did see some brand new ones in the store for under $3!)

3. Set a budget

I set a basic budget for my Halloween costume – under $30. I didn’t let my budget limit me – I still tried on a few items that would have put me over that $30 mark in case they were absolute must-haves. A plus about choosing a costume with pieces you can re-wear? You can go for the quality items that might cost a little extra.  This was why I would have potentially been comfortable spending more.

4. Make the whole store your playground

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Value Village has an amazing and huge Halloween section with decor items, costumes, and more. But don’t limit yourself to one corner of the store. Make the whole store your thrifting playground. Last year I found the shirt for my costume in the men’s section and the unicorn I needed in the children’s section. This year was a little more tame – I only ventured out of the women’s section to find a skinny tie in the men’s section. But the point is scour the entire store.

5. Check different sizes

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Now, ideally you want to find some thing that is the perfect fit. That way you can comfortably re-wear it later in the year. But for some costumes or elements of your costume that may not make sense or you may not want to. In that case don’t be afraid to check different sizes. For example – I visited the kids 14+ section since I’m on the petite side to see if there was a uniform skirt. Don’t be afraid to size up because you can do a little DIY… which leads to my next point.

6. Don’t be afraid to DIY

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I’m not someone that knows how to sew or do anything fancy when it comes to DIYs. Don’t be afraid to get handy with scissors, or pins, or a glue gun. Last year I found a shirt for my costume that was the perfect print. Unfortunately it was a men’s large. I cut it up and it suddenly became the perfect crop for my Agnes shirt. This year? My DIY consisted of finding a men’s skinny tie and cutting it so that I could make an even bow.

For more thrifting tips, read my post “5 Tips for Surviving Thrift Shopping.” 

About My Costume: 

I picked up the headband, skirt, blouse, and tie at Value Village. As stated earlier, I had the socks and loafers at home. As an avid thrifted, I always love knowing the exact dets of peoples’ finds. So if you’re like me keep reading. The skirt was American Apparel for $9.49, the tie was $3.99, the blouse was GAP for $7.99, and the headband was $1. That rings in at $22.47 and the best part? 2 of the 4 items I will re-wear in the future!

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What are you dressing up as for Halloween this year?
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Disclaimer: Value Village graciously sponsored this post, however all thoughts are my own and 100% authentic as is always promised on Palm Trees & Pellegrino. 

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