A letter to the friend sitting on a ledge

A letter to the friend sitting on a ledge



Dear friend,

You probably clicked this wondering “who’s that person sitting on the ledge?” I say ledge but what I really mean is edge. Edge of what? If you’re watching your life pass you by, but instead of being in the driver seat you’re the passenger– you’re on the edge. If you’re that person saying “I want” without the important “I will,” you’re sitting on that ledge. You’re the outcast in your very own party of 1.

I’m writing to you because I’ve seen you. In fact, you’ve been sitting on the ledge with a whole crew. I finally see you because I’m no longer there. It’s one of those outside looking in things.

Raise your hand if you’re “comfortable,” but not “happy.” If you’re doing “okay” when you could be doing “great.” If you know where you want to be, but you’re not there because you’re scared of taking control. Okay well, this is for you. Keep reading.

A few weeks ago, one of my colleagues passed away. On my team, it feels almost silly to say “colleague” because it feels like we’re all family. Anyways, he passed away totally unexpectedly. A heart attack that hit a person that was healthy, full of life, that was supposed to be in a meeting with me the next morning. While death is always painful, even when we know it’s coming, it is so much more SCARY when it’s unexpected.

Not to get all dark and serious, but people die every. single. day. Car accidents, heart attacks, cancer. There’s no book that guarantees that we’ll all live to the ripe age of 99. Life is short. Even 99 years are a short blip in time.

Take a step back, and look in the mirror. Are you happy? Are you living life to the fullest? Have you made a bucket list? (and have you started crossing things off the list?) Are you being the best you that you can be? Are you surrounding yourself with people that make you feel like the best version of yourself? Are you sitting on a ledge? And lastly– if your life ended tomorrow, would you look back and be proud of where you were?

I like to think that my life story is a work in progress. I’ll probably never reach the 100% mark because in reality that would have to be perfection. But looking back and looking forward, I would answer all those questions with yes. I’m taking a step in the right direction.

If you’re reading this, and you’re on the ledge. Consider this as already taking a step in the right direction. The next steps are scarier, looking in the clouded mirror can be hard, but that first look is another step in the right direction.

So, to all my beautiful readers. Please, take control of the wheel. Because let’s be real, there’s nothing scarier than realizing that if you’re not driving your life, no one else will.

Photography by: Tracy Lamont Photography


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